Hello! How are you all?
Recently, I have been thinking about how different everyone is and I love that!
I have a very close friend and in the past few weeks, we have been getting into more heated discussions. I always thought we were similar but these discussions showed me how differently we see a lot things in life. I have been pleasantly surprised.
Everyone is different to some level. While that might scare us at times -because for the human psyche, different might be threatening-, that is the beauty of existence. Imagine if we were all the same. It would be really boring. I already live with myself 24/7, so when I meet others, I would prefer it if they were not me. This is more exciting.
But as I said, different is challenging. First, it challenges our need for safety. Second, we sometimes do not know how to deal with differences. For example, I might know how to deal with my own anger but when somebody else gets angry, their style might be different and we might find it hard to understand what to do in that situation. That needs some patience and some communication. We might or might not be able to have these.
I have found that it helped me to remind myself of how exciting differences are in dealing with them. It made me more understanding, therefore more patient. Maybe we can keep telling ourselves of the beauty of diversity and this will perhaps override our subconscious concerns.
What do you think about all of this? Do you find it hard to adapt to differences or does it come easy to you? If it is not easy, what do you do? If it is, how do you manage it?