This week’s topic is change, specifically how our wants and needs change at different ages.
Up until recently, I lived in big cities. First, in Istanbul for 6.5 years and then in Los Angeles for 6.5 years. Istanbul has a population of 15 million and it is the bigger of the two, but both are big, active cities. I loved living in them when I was there. The only time I was tired of Istanbul was the last year of my time there and then I moved to LA and loved it a lot too. I loved the chaos and activity level that comes with being in a big city. It gave a some kind of satisfaction.
But only until I turned 30. Then, I started wanting to be in an isolated mountain house, minding my own business. I wanted to ride, hike and read in peace. I believe that is the first time in my life I ever wanted something like this. Relatedly, socialization has become more difficult. As a person known to have way too many friends everywhere in the world to people who know me, now I want to spend my time on my own, again minding my own business. And it is not like I am being forced. I genuinely enjoy these times.
In a nutshell, what I wanted in my 20s is very different from what I want in my 30s. The 20-year-old me must be watching the current me in surprise. But this is change. I am sure many other things will change as I grow older and I am now more accepting of that (Initially, because I thought being social was always good for me, I was terrified of isolating myself and questioned it a lot).
What changes did you notice in your life as you grew older? Let’s talk about change that comes with age today.