Homesick

A couple of weeks ago, just past midnight on July 5th, I took off out of Hong Kong, flew across the Pacific Ocean, crossed the International date line and arrived in Los Angeles at 10pm on July 4th. There are few approaches during my ten year career I can think as memorable as that one. … More Homesick

A Crying Shame

There’s a big difference between shame and guilt. Guilt is the feeling you get when you did something wrong, or perceived you did something wrong, whereas shame is a feeling that your whole self is wrong – a belief that you’re a bad person, or unworthy as an individual.  Now, guilt isn’t necessarily a bad … More A Crying Shame

Regaining Lift

Most of us experience stalling at some stage in our lives. In our attempts to be all we can. In our attempts to climb as high as we can, as fast as we can. The problem is, like an aeroplane, we can only climb so fast. If we pitch the nose up too high, or … More Regaining Lift

How To Save Democracy

“The function all expressions of contempt have in common is the defence against unwanted feelings.” – Alice Miller I read something the other day that got the alarm bells ringing. It was a book called The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller. In a nut shell Miller argues that our childhood experience – … More How To Save Democracy

Table(t) Manners

Growing up my dad always made a point about having good table manners. He made sure we never chewed food with our mouths open. That we always sat up straight. That we we set the table properly and cleared away and washed the dishes afterwards.  One of the rules was if you didn’t cook, you … More Table(t) Manners

Captain Hindsight

There’s a character from the popular sitcom South Park called Captain Hindsight. For those who’ve not seen it, Captain Hindsight is a super hero (of sorts) who shows up to the scene of a disaster while it’s taking place. He then “helps” the people in need by making a stirring speech about all the ways everyone should have acted … More Captain Hindsight