Understanding ourselves and the world we live in.
True, intrinsic self-esteem is extremely conducive to happiness. But self-esteem that is merely contingent, on the other hand, is not. Following up on a previous post, I want to share a few contrasts between true and contingent self-esteem. Gabor Mate identifies these in Scattered (see chapter 25). Contingent self-esteem...True self-esteem...evaluatesaccepts"is fickle, going up and down... Continue Reading →
trauma is a still-unhealed wound, still carried within oneself traumatic event, or traumatizing event, is the thing that caused the trauma often 'trauma' is used to mean traumatizing event. this seems fine to me, so long as the meaning is understood. However, The distinction between trauma and traumatizing event is perhaps not widely understood or... Continue Reading →
Not long ago, I read something about self-esteem that seems important to share. It's a distinction between contingent and true self-esteem. Or rather, a distinction between self-esteem, and something that looks like self-esteem, but isn't. Gabor Mate puts it like this: "Self-esteem based on achievement has been called contingent self-esteem or acquired self-esteem. Unlike contingent... Continue Reading →
By SeekerFive A very nice comment by @kjensenstudio pushed me to enlarge upon what I meant by suggesting, in a previous post, that "life is the condition for meaning and meaningfulness, rather than something that needs a single, permanent, or predetermined meaning." Although I attempted to do so in a long-winded reply, I also want... Continue Reading →
Recently, my teammate AP2 published a touching post about life's meaning. A major point he sought to make was this: "our lives hold as much meaning as we give them" which he connects with the danger of losing a sense of meaningfulness, the danger of getting swallowed up by a personal existential nihilism, of becoming... Continue Reading →
Sometimes I remember a writer, I can't recall who, describing a friend who though atheist, sometimes goes into a church and prays. photo by SeekerFive The writer had noticed this about his friend and was perplexed: How, or why, is he praying, if he does not believe in a god to pray to? His friend... Continue Reading →
Most of the world, it seems, has experienced a great deal of fear during this past year. I'm not thinking primarily of the recent U.S. election or the current U.S. presidential transition. There had already been enough fear to write this post after a month or two of pandemic-occasioned "lock down." Timelines differ around the... Continue Reading →
How would you illustrate what it means to do a good thing gladly and with pleasure, as distinguished from doing the same thing with reluctance, pain, and a sense of loss?
Obviously technical skills are important in life. But it's other qualities that make you a good person, a good human being. Someone, in other words, who leads a good life. Does the question seem random? In fact, it's intrinsically connected with the pursuit of humane and skillful wisdom. I'll follow up on this question in... Continue Reading →
A few days ago, Bogdan brought up destiny in one of his posts, which got me thinking more about this notion. It often seems, or at least is presented as, mysterious. But on reflection, the basic concept itself was fairly straightforward. One's destin-y is one's eventual destin-ation. It's where you'll arrive, the place you'll end... Continue Reading →
Anything fully up to you. Dependent only on you. Entirely within your own control? A little context: When walking the Stoic path (one form of philosophy as an art of living), people often seek to distinguish what’s within their own power and what isn’t. This sets the stage for acceptance of what is not, and... Continue Reading →
You may have noticed a certain internet meme featuring Yoda and this pithy saying: The difference between a master and a beginner is that the master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried. I think there’s a lot to this, and it’s had me thinking about failure and success. Of course there’s... Continue Reading →
