A Piece of Advice

“Enjoy this time, it goes so fast” is the single most repeated piece of parenting advice that I’ve heard since having kids. Since I chose to become a single mom at an older age than my friends, having my kids at age 46 and 50, I hear it from my peers not just the older … More A Piece of Advice

Community

This last weekend, I was out listening to live music for the first time in two years and suddenly the people, the place and the context overran me with a sublime feeling of community. I was with my brother and his wife and because the lead singer of the blue grass group we were listening … More Community

The Power of Stories

Shortly after I returned from Everest Base Camp in 2001, I went with my dad to hear Beck Weathers speak. Anyone that has read Jon Krakauer’s book Into Thin Air or any of the other books about the 1996 disaster on Everest, is probably familiar with his story. Here’s my abridged version: Beck was a … More The Power of Stories

The Gift of Empathy

A few months ago, my daughter and her best friend were doing an art project at my dining room table. My 6-year-old daughter announced that she didn’t like the color brown. And her best friend took offense at that because she is brown. I identify as heterosexual, white female. I am so unambiguous about that … More The Gift of Empathy

The Business of Writing

Let me pose a hypothetical job description: Looking for someone good with words. Work involves writing about topics that interest you and that enable you to ponder your experience and wisdom. Your ability to connect to other people with varied backgrounds and experiences in order to build a community of feedback that will help you … More The Business of Writing

The Art of Apology

The other night my two-year-old son wanted me to get a step stool out of the closet. As I was lifting it out of the storage space, he reached for it and his littlest pinky finger got pinched in the hinge that connects the sides of the ladder as it opens. Yikes! I put the … More The Art of Apology

A Sense of Security

The other night as my mom and I were talking about Ukraine, my six year old daughter asked, “Are we safe?” It made me wonder – what is it that makes us feel secure? Locked doors,  guard dogs or gated communities? Enough money in the bank account that we could afford displacement? Physical health, strength … More A Sense of Security

God and Football

In this post I’m going to talk about the Divine. I use the word God but I intend it generally as in the God of your understanding. As my friend who is in AA has told me, often times a newcomer will come in to a meeting and say that they don’t believe that there … More God and Football

Backpacks

After I wrote that post on Vulnerability last week, I had lunch with my friend Doug. He was the person I mentioned in the post as the friend who’d asked about the blog and then not responded when I shared it with him. Turns out that he’d both read and liked the writing very much … More Backpacks

Vulnerability

The other day my friend, Doug called when I was working on my post for Pointless Overthinking. When I responded to his question to tell him what I was doing, he said, “Oh, that’s awesome. Send me the link to that blog.” I did and then….<nothing.> Did he not like my latest post? Did he … More Vulnerability

Sharing Wisdom

In March of 2001, I trekked to Everest Base Camp with my friends Phil and Sue who were attempting to summit Mt. Everest that year. They had invited a few of their friends to join them on the 30 mile trek in and we’d assembled in Katmandu, Nepal to gather our last few supplies before … More Sharing Wisdom

Acts of Kindness

My kids and I are in quarantine. Hearing about this, a friend left a bag with flowers, soup, mac ‘n cheese, herbal tea, chocolate bars and most importantly, a project for each child on the porch. She didn’t ask what we needed because I would have said “nothing. We are fine. But receiving her offering … More Acts of Kindness

Bemoaning our Fate

Year ago I was writing a technical book with two business partners. It was a beast – 737 pages of dense and technical content. We divided up the chapters that each of us was going to write. I agreed to do more than the others because I’d written a technical book before. But it was … More Bemoaning our Fate

Silence

Yesterday, the first full day that both of my kids were back at school, I just sat in my empty house in silence. No tv or music, my cell phone turned to vibrate, computer off. Just the hum of the refrigerator and the sound of the rain on the window. It felt like a whole … More Silence