“When you stay upset on someone, you give your emotional control to that person every time you think about her. You’re allowing that person to control your emotions from a distance. By not forgiving her, you’re allowing that person to control your emotional life as if she would be with you in that moment and... Continue Reading →

This is something most people want to avoid. This is basically why so many awesome ideas die. People cannot stand the fact they might be wrong. They just don’t, especially when they strongly believe in a certain idea. This is related to the fact that an idea or an opinion is strongly connected to the... Continue Reading →

Starting from a comment Viola Bleu posted on one of my writings, I began skating the internet (I don’t surf because I don’t know how to swim), to get more insights about this idea that we are becoming what we’re surrounding ourselves with. Why is this happening? It’s happening because whatever we have around us becomes familiar... Continue Reading →

Rephrasing is a therapeutic technique developed by Carl Rogers which represents the expression in a more concise way whatever the other person just said (rephrasing is different from reframing which is another therapeutic method, but this second one is used for changing the context or the perspective with a different one that fits at least as good). Since he... Continue Reading →

This question has been raised by Natalie and I found it to be a very interesting topic to think about. I think about homeostasis just as I think about comfort zone (even though it’s a biological thing like maintaining the temperature, the level of each hormone released, the blood pressure and so on). Here is a definition... Continue Reading →

There is such a big difference between our lives and the lives other people live. This happens not because we live different lives, but because we live our life from a first person’s perspective, whilst everybody else’s life is seen from a third person’s perspective. We see and perceive other lives through stories and adventures,... Continue Reading →

Yeah, I know. It sounds pretty easy, right? Judith S. Beck talks in her book Cognitive therapy: Basics and beyond (1995) about confusions people often make. Let me give you some examples: I feel that he hates me. I know today is going to be a bad day, I can feel I think I’m sad. “Why the f*ck does it matter?” Great question! It matters... Continue Reading →

I listened to this podcast today where Tom Bilyeu talked with Ed Mylett about some interesting ideas. One of the things that hit me hard was the story about the time Ed Mylett went to the doctor. He said that this doctor had a different approach in addressing the health issues Ed had. Instead of prescribing some meds and getting... Continue Reading →

This seems to be a never-ending topic, and no wonder. We “communicate” daily, or at least, that’s what we think we do. But do we really? Lately, I got even more obsessed about the way we communicate (I didn’t think it was possible) and obviously, I started with observing the way I communicate. The main... Continue Reading →

Written by SnapDragon X. All rights reserved. Copyright 2019. It’s Back-to-School Time, lovelies. My favorite time of the year. It’s a time for new sneakers, fresh notebooks, and all of the sharpened pencils a girl can dream of. I suppose as a teacher, it’s in my blood to feel this way. My internal clock seems... Continue Reading →

I know this is not my best title, but it does the job! So… how hopeful is Hope? No, Hope is not a person, it’s a feeling. The feeling that things will be great someday. Here’s the general opinion about hope: “Hope is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of... Continue Reading →

Have you ever noticed that when you are “possessed” by a particular emotion, your mind reminds you of past situations when you had that same emotion? Our emotions rule and rock our world.  They are so powerful that they can control the way we think in those moments. That’s exactly way it is said that... Continue Reading →

When we’re relaxed, our general state is more positive (have you ever seen a relaxed grumpy person?) and we’re also more open to new ideas and suggestions and that’s when changes can happen. I know there are times when we can get easily relaxed, but there are also times when it seems impossible. This motivated... Continue Reading →

Sometime these days I came across some ancient wise words:    “Plant a thought and you’ll pick an action;    Plant an action and you’ll pick a habit;    Plant a habit and you’ll pick a character;    Plant a character and you’ll pick a destiny.” – Random Wise Ancient Dude or Dudette This is exactly... Continue Reading →

We all have thoughts, right? Good thoughts, bad thoughts, crazy thoughts, kinky thoughts, sh*tty thoughts and so on. So as long as we’re all thinking, why wouldn’t we do it thinking about great stuff? It seems that we’re becoming what we’re thinking about most of the time. That’s why our surroundings are so important… whatever... Continue Reading →

Most of us encounter stressful situations daily and we all know how this makes us think and feel, but what are the biological implications? What is stress from a biological point of view?    “Living in stress is like living in survival mode – they’re one and the same thing. A stressful situation is one in which the... Continue Reading →