Understanding ourselves and the world we live in.
These days a very interesting idea popped in my mind: is our judgmental opinion related to our instincts? Maybe we are somehow programmed to judge other people as a survival instinct. Maybe we cannot help ourselves doing it. Crowd and survival As you know, in our early days, our survival as individuals and as a... Continue Reading →
Does it happen to you that whenever you have a great idea about something, immediately your mind is filled with automatic negative thoughts about why it can’t get real? And if this happens, do you find solutions to counter the negative thoughts or you just drop the idea? If you drop the idea, I think... Continue Reading →
Anyone can name their friends, right? But how do you differentiate between friends and acquaintances? The amount of time you spend talking with them? The things you say to them? What kind of things you say to a friend? If you think a certain person is your friend, does that person think the same?... Continue Reading →
Do we live in the same reality? No, this is not some conspiracy theory, neither some Sci-Fi perspective. Let’s just think about this for a minute or two… what it is real for me, it is real for everyone? How do we define what’s real and what’s not? If I see, say, think and believe that the... Continue Reading →
Have you noticed that lately there are more and more interactions on social networks, but less and less in real life? How is this possible? There are the same people, right? Apparently not… I think that from behind of a screen, we can create the identity we want and we can twitch that based... Continue Reading →
I often find myself full with strong feelings like anxiety or anger and even the most insignificant things can trigger an inappropriate response full of rage from my behalf. As I pointed in an older post, to get in control of my emotions I have to get in control of my thoughts. The process of... Continue Reading →
As part of my daily routine I observe people, including myself. While doing this I try to develop for myself a habit of asking additional questions so I can have a better understanding of what might go on in my observations. Because of this, I’ve noticed something interesting: even though I can logically understand something,... Continue Reading →
As humans, we deal with countless emotions daily and some of them can change our mood and that affects our thoughts and our behavior. To better understand why this is happening and how to control our emotions, we need to understand what triggers them. Are we in complete control over our emotions? Not quite, but... Continue Reading →
Many times I’ve wondered what are our true reasons we behave as we do. Is it our purpose in life? What a purpose in life really represents? Is it going for something or is it running from something? Based on what we decide how should we act in every moment? I’m proposing a theory based... Continue Reading →
I came across an interesting experiment about how physical experiences affect our interactions with others. In 2008 Lawrence E. Williams and John A. Bargh found out in their study Experiencing Physical Warmth Promotes Interpersonal Warmth that something as simple as the temperature of a coffee can have an influence on us judging the others. This is... Continue Reading →
Have you ever wondered how much time do we spend thinking about what others think about us? But how much time do we spend thinking about others? How are these two answers affecting us? In my opinion, sometimes it affects us more than it should. Here are some words that got stuck in... Continue Reading →
Do you ever ask yourself if it matters how you dress? What about the way you are arranging your hair? Yes, I know it sounds like some superficial crap, but there is some psychological background here. I’m going to say yes, it matters, but not because we are all some shallow superficial people,... Continue Reading →
I know, it’s a f*cked up title, but bear with me. In my daily journey in the world I’ve noticed something interesting: each and every one of us is unique in the way we think, but bottom line, we all want the same things. I’m sure you’ve noticed there are multiple paths to the... Continue Reading →
It is said that knowledge is power. If so, why do we get upset sometimes when we find out some things? I think that it’s because we sometimes have strong beliefs which get in conflict with the answers we are finding out by asking those questions. Ok, but why do we ask the questions if... Continue Reading →
I was going to say intelligence instead of number of thoughts, but it’s a subject way too big to be fitted in a simple post. I’ve heard in many places that dumb people are happier. Is that true? If so, why is it true? What defines a person to be dumb? According to The... Continue Reading →
This is going to be a hard to read post because most of us do not have a high level of self-confidence. We prefer to think that we are too small to make a great contribution; we think that we’re not good enough or smart enough or we are not lucky enough to make... Continue Reading →
Have you ever wonder why do we get angry? I know it’s because of some situations or because of some people, but that is not the real reason. We get angry because of what we think about the situation or about the person, and most of the times it is connected with the feeling... Continue Reading →
Most of us know how to speak, but do most of us know how to express what we want to express? Along my journey I witnessed people talking for hours but saying almost nothing and it made me wonder what the whole purpose of that is and how it’s affecting our communication skills. Talking for... Continue Reading →
This is such a deep topic and I’ve found some more interesting ideas about communication which I want to share with you. Besides those 4 steps that I mentioned here, Jacques Salome and Sylvie Galland talk about different levels on which we’re expressing ourselves and in their book If Only I’d Listen to Myself... Continue Reading →
I sometimes wonder how our past affects our present and in what way. I’m not talking about actions we did in the past which have some effects on our present. I’m talking about remembering things and situations. Our memories are as powerful in influencing our present feelings as our present day. This is how... Continue Reading →
